Wednesday, December 25, 2013

SELECTED KHUTAB 1 (b. 3 of 3

 
 

 

23.  THE CONSTRICTED BREAST

          If we ponder the Qur’ānic verses and study them carefully we shall find them enchanting to our mind. Allah urges us to study the Qur’ān carefully, and said:

  أَفَلَا يَتَدَبَّرُونَ الْقُرْآَنَ أَمْ عَلَى قُلُوبٍ أَقْفَالُهَا  (محمد: ۲٤)

Do they not  then earnestly  seek to understand the Qur’ān,

 or is that there are locks upon their hearts?” [1]

 Again He said:

  كِتَابٌ أَنْزَلْنَاهُ إِلَيْكَ مُبَارَكٌ لِيَدَّبَّرُوا  آَيَاتِهِ وَلِيَتَذَكَّرَ أُولُو الْأَلْبَابِ  (ص: ۲٩)

“(Here is) Book which We have sent down unto thee,

 full of blessings, that they may meditate on its

 signs, and that men of understanding

 may receive admonition.”[2]

              Now let us ponder the following verse:

فَمَنْ يُرِدِ اللَّهُ أَنْ يَهدِيَهُ يَشْرَحْ صَدْرَهُ لِلْإِسْلَامِ  وَمَنْ يُرِدْ أَنْ يُضِلَّهُ

َجْعَلْ صَدْرَهُ ضَيِّقًا  حَرَجًا كَأَنَّمَا يَصَّعَّدُ فِي السَّمَاءِ

(الأنعام: ۱۲٥)

"Those whom Allah willeth to guide,--He openeth

 Their  breast to Islam; those  whom He willeth

 to leave straying,--He maketh their breast  close

 and  constricted, as they had to climb

 up to the skies…"[3]

          Earlier commentators said that the meaning of the above verse is that the hearts of those whom Allah leaves straying will be so narrow that iman (faith) will not enter into it, like the impossibility of ascending to the sky.  But in fact, this verse has a deeper and scientific meaning.

          People in ancient time believed that the outer space had an atmosphere like the earth. It was said that the Greek emperor Alexander the Great wished to ascend to the sky in a carriage flown by birds.

          The air consists of 20 % oxygen that is very important for our lives.  Without oxygen men, animals and plants cannot survive. When people invented the balloon, they ascended to the sky until they reached a height of 30 km; when they used rockets and planes so that they reached higher altitude, they found out that even a single foot raised in the sky caused the decrease of air pressure and oxygen. It is known that after the altitude of 10 km suffocation occurs because of lack of oxygen.

 

 

 

 

24.  WATER CYCLE

          For every nation Allah sent a prophet, and to every prophet Allah gave a miracle as evidence of his prophethood, such as the staff of Prophet Moses (Musa, p.b.u.h.), or the revival of the dead by Prophet Jesus (‘Īsā, p.b.u.h.).  But the miracles of earlier prophets were only heard and not witnessed by us. As for the greatest miracle of the last prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h.), namely, the Qur’ān, we hear it, we see it, we read it.  Its eloquence is inimitable. It is a miracle for Arabs and non-Arabs, for the laymen and the genius.

          Until the 16th century, people still believed that the waters of the oceans, under the effect of winds, were driven toward the inner parts of the continents. Then they returned to the oceans through the great abyss called the Tartarus which has been known since Plato’s time. According to Aristotle (Plato’s student) water was condensed in cool mountain caverns and formed underground lakes that fed springs. In the 16th century, Bernard Palissy described for the first time the coherence of the water cycle. Today, we know that it is the infiltrated rainwater that feeds the springs. But the Qur’ān has described it long time ago:

أَلَمْ تَرَ أَنَّ اللَّهَ أَنْزَلَ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ مَاءً فَسَلَكَهُ

يَنَابِيعَ فِي الْأَرْضِ ثُمَّ يُخْرِجُ بِهِ زَرْعًا مُخْتَلِفًا أَلْوَانُهُ

(الزمر: ۲۱)

“Seest thou not that Allah sends  down rain from

 the sky, and leads it through springs in the earth?

 Then He caused to grow, therewith,

  produce of various colours.” [4]

          In another verse of the Qur’ān, the formation of a cumulus cloud which contains hails and causes rain, storm of thunder and lightning, and which causes pilots as well as those who are near to it to be temporarily blind is mentioned. Allah says:

  أَلَمْ تَرَ أَنَّ اللَّهَ يُزْجِي سَحَابًا ثُمَّ يُؤَلِّفُ بَيْنَهُ ثُمَّ يَجْعَلُهُ

 رُكَامًا فَتَرَى الْوَدْقَ يَخْرُجُ مِنْ خِلَالِهِ وَيُنَزِّلُ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ مِنْ جِبَالٍ

 فِيهَا مِنْ بَرَدٍ فَيُصِيبُ بِهِ مَنْ يَشَاءُ وَيَصْرِفُهُ عَنْ مَنْ يَشَاءُ

 يَكَادُ سَنَا بَرْقِهِ يَذْهَبُ بِالْأَبْصَارِ

(النور:٤٣)

“Seest thou not that Allah makes the clouds move gently,

 then joins them together, then makes them into a heap?—then

 wilt thou see rain issue forth from their mist.  And He sends

 down from the sky mountain masses (of clouds) wherein is

 hail: He strikes therewith whom He pleases and He turns

 it away from whom He pleases. The vivid flash of

its lightning well-nigh blinds the sight.”[5]

          The type of the cloud expressed in the above verse is the one that grows vertically. It is called cumulus because of the vertical accumulation of clouds. It can reach the height of 15 km or even more. Therefore it looks like a mountain. It consists of three parts: the higher part consists of white crystal ice; the middle part (layer) consists of the mixture of the falling crystal ice from above and drops of cold water which is below zero; the lowest part consists of mostly drops of water or ice crystals and is on the point of falling down to the earth. This type of cloud, the cumulus, is the only one that contains ice crystals, or hail. This is the scientific interpretation of the verse: “And He sends down from the sky mountain masses (of clouds) wherein hail.”

          After the Second World War, scientists used radar to take pictures showing the gradual formation of the cumulus cloud. They found that it started with some small clouds being driven upwards by air currents. Then every two or more small clouds are being bound together. This is the scientific interpretation of the verse: “Seest thou not that Allah makes the clouds move gently, then joins them together, then makes them into a heap?”  “Heap” means “accumulation” and this type of cloud is called cumulus.

          Strangely enough, this is the only type of cloud that produces storms of thunder and lightning which can temporarily blind our eyes. This is the scientific interpretation of the verse: “The vivid flash of His lightning almost blinds the sight.”

          There is another type of cloud which forms itself horizontally so that it covers the sky. It does not produce thunder or lightning or hail. It is called stratus cloud. It is from the word stratum meaning “level”. This type of cloud has been referred to by the Qur’ān as follows:

    اللَّهُ الَّذِي يُرْسِلُ الرِّيَاحَ فَتُثِيرُ سَحَابًا فَيَبْسُطُهُ فِي السَّمَاءِ

كَيْفَ يَشَاءُ وَيَجْعَلُهُ كِسَفًا فَتَرَى الْوَدْقَ يَخْرُجُ مِنْ خِلَالِهِ فَإِذَا أَصَابَ

 بِهِ مَنْ يَشَاءُ مِنْ عِبَادِهِ إِذَا هُمْ يَسْتَبْشِرُونَ

(الروم:٤٨)

“It is Allah Who sends the winds, and they raise

 the clouds: then does He spread them in they sky as

 He wills, and break them into fragments, until thou seest

 rain-drops issue from the midst thereof: then when

 He has made them reach such of  His servants

as He wills, behold, they do rejoice!”[6]

          If you are on board a plane you can easily distinguish between these two types of cloud: one is like a mountain, and the other is like a carpet and is closer to the surface of the earth; planes usually fly above it. The Arabs call this flat cloud the “autumn cloud”.

 

 

 

 

25. ISRĀ’ AND MI’RĀJ

          On the 27th of Rajab every year Muslims all over the world commemorate Isrā’ (the night journey of the Prophet from Mecca to Jerusalem) and mi’rāj (the Prophet’s ascension to the heaven and beyond).

          Before isrā’ and mi’rāj the Prophet had suffered much: after three years of boycott by the Quraysh, his wife Khadījah and his uncle Abū T.ālib died. After the death of Abū T.ālib, the pagan Quraysh tribe became bolder to torment the Prophet. They put a camel’s uterus on his shoulder while he was prostrating in prayer by the Ka‘bah. They threw dust on him. ‘Uqbah bin Mu‘īt. strangled him while he was praying; fortunately, Abū Bakr came to rescue, throwing down the man, saying, “Are you going to kill a man just because he says that Allah is his Lord?” When the Prophet went to T.ā’if, 60 km east of Mecca with Zayd bin H...ārithah to call people to Islam, they threw stones at him. His absence from Mecca was known by the Meccans, and they did not want him to come back to Mecca. Fortunately, a neighbour called Mut.‘im bin ‘Adī, one of the Meccan chiefs, wanted to protect him, so he and his man came to the Prophet outside the city and escorted him into the city.  The Prophet stayed the night at his cousin’s house Ummu Hāni’ (the daughter of his uncle Abū T.ālib) who was also his nursing sister. The Prophet was so humiliated and annoyed on earth, yet he received the greatest honour a human being had ever had in heaven.

          After all these miserable conditions, it was time for Allah to console the Prophet and to show his exalted position. One night, the angel Gabriel and Michael came to the Prophet, opened his breast and cleansed his heart with the water of Zamzam (the well-known well inside the Holy Mosque in Mecca), then made him ride on a mysterious animal called Burāq. They went to al-Masjid al-Aqs.ā (the Farthest Mosque) in Jerusalem where they had been awaited by the prophets before him, such as Abraham, Moses, David, Solomon and Jesus, peace be upon them. They had been sent by Allah to receive and to welcome the Prophet there.

After leading the prayer with those prophets and thanking them for their greetings, the Prophet said to them: “All of you praise your Lord and I also praise my Lord.” Then he said: “Praise be to Allah who has sent me as a blessing to the whole world and to the whole mankind as an announcer of good news (بَشِيْر) and as a warner  (نَذِيْر), Who has revealed to me the Furqān (i.e., the Qur’ān which makes the distinction between right and wrong) wherein the explanation of everything, Who made my community the best one among the people, Who made my community the middle one, the first and the last, Who made me pleased, Who put away my burden, Who raised my esteem and Who made me a conqueror and a last prophet.” On hearing this, Prophet Abraham told other prophets, “Muhammad has the merits over you in these things.” Then the Prophet was given wine and milk, choosing milk.  Gabriel told him, had he chosen wine, his followers would go astray.

          Then the Prophet ascended with Gabriel to the seventh heaven and beyond. In he first heaven he met Adam, in the second John (Yah.yā) and Jesus (‘Īsā), in the third Joseph (Yūsuf), in the fourth Enoch (Idrīs), in the fifth Aaron (Hārūn), in the sixth Moses (Mūsā), and in the seventh Abraham (Ibrāhīm), peace be upon them. They went further up to Sidrat al-Muntahā (Lotus Tree Heaven) where Gabriel said to the Prophet: “O Muhammad, ascend alone. You are the one who is wanted. Every one of us has his own rank (position), and here is the end of my position. If I step further I will be burned.” This indicates that a human being can have higher position than the angel.

          The Prophet came forward, greeted Allah and said:

التَّحِيَّاتُ المُبَارَكَاتُ الصَّلَوَاتُ الطَّيِّبَاتُ لِلّهِ

“All reference, all worship and all sanctity are due to Allah.”

Allah said:

السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكَ أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُه

“Peace be upon you, O Prophet, the mercy of Allah and His blessing.”

The Prophet joined his brothers among prophets in saying:

السَّلَامُ عَلَيْنَا وَعَلىَ عِبَادِ اللهِ الصَّالِحِيْنَ

“Peace be upon us, and upon he righteous servants of Allah.”

The angels said:

أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ إلاَّّ اللهُ و أَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا رَسُوْلُ الله

“I bear witness that there is no god but Allah

and Muhammad is His messenger.”

The whole world said:

اللّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلىَ مُحَمَّدٍ وَ آلِهِ وَ صَحَابَتِهِ وَ ذُرَّيَتِهِ وَ التَّابِعِيْنَ لَهُمْ بِإِحْسَانٍ مِنْ أُمَّتِهِ

“O Allah, give blessing upon Muhammad his

  household, his companions, his descendants and those

 who follow them well among his followers.”

          This indicates that what we used to say in the tah.iyyāt (i.e., greetings we cite while sitting) in our prayer is the exchange greetings between Allah and the Prophet, the angels and others. The Prophet said that prayer is the mirāj (ascension) of the believers. The Prophet’s heart was cleansed before mirāj, while we perform wud.ū’ (ablution) before praying.

          Allah enjoined fifty prayers, but following the advice of Prophet Moses, fifty prayers were reduced to five with the same merit and the reward of fifty prayers. If it were not for the advice of Prophet Moses, we would have to pray fifty times a day.

In his mirāj the Prophet encountered many symbolic actions as warnings and lessons to us. For example, he saw people breaking their heads with rocks symbolizing those who neglect their obligatory prayers. In one tradition a man asked the Prophet what Allah loved most in Islam, he said:

الصَّلَاةُ لَوَقْتِهَا ، وَمَنْ تَرَكَ الصَّلاَةَ فَلَا دِيْنَ لَهُ ، وَالصَّلاَةُ عِمَادُ الدِّيْن

(رواه البيهقي)

“Prayer on its time, whoever leaves it (abstain

 from  doing it) he has  no [practised] religion for

 him,  prayer is the pillar of religion.”[7]

If we compare the meeting between Allah and the Prophet and between Allah and Prophet Moses, we find that:

1.    In the mirāj the Prophet met Allah in Sidrat al-Muntahā, beyond the seventh heaven, while Prophet Moses met Allah on the earth, in the Sacred Valley of T.uwā’ in Sinai. These two places do not imply fixing a place for Allah, because He is beyond the limitation of time and space.  The places were fixed only for the two prophets, Muhammad and Moses respectively. Allah mentions the place where His signs appeared for Prophet Moses in a burning bush in the following verses:

 وَهَلْ أَتَاكَ حَدِيثُ مُوسَى. إِذْ رَأَى نَارًا فَقَالَ لِأَهْلِهِ امْكُثُوا

إِنِّي آَنَسْتُ نَارًا لَعَلِّي آَتِيكُمْ مِنْهَا بِقَبَسٍ أَوْ أَجِدُ عَلَى النَّارِ هُدًى.

فَلَمَّا أَتَاهَا نُودِيَ يَا مُوسَى. إِنِّي أَنَا رَبُّكَ فَاخْلَعْ نَعْلَيْكَ إِنَّكَ بِالْوَادِ

 الْمُقَدَّسِ طُوًى.  وَأَنَا اخْتَرْتُكَ فَاسْتَمِعْ لِمَا يُوحَى. إِنَّنِي أَنَا اللَّهُ

 لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنَا فَاعْبُدْنِي وَأَقِمِ الصَّلَاةَ لِذِكْرِي.

(طه:٩-۱٤)

“Has the story of Moses reached thee: Behold, he saw a fire:

so he said to his family, ‘Tarry ye; I perceive a fire; perhaps I

can bring you some burning brand therefrom, or find some guidance at the fire.’ But when he came to the fire, he was called: ‘O Moses! Verily I am thy Lord! Therefore  put off thy shoes: thou art in the sacred valley of Tuwa’.  I have chosen thee: Listen, then, to the inspiration (given to thee).  Verily, I am Allah: there is no god but I: So serve thou Me (only) and establish regular prayer for My remembrance.”[8]

             In other verses Allah specified the place more clearly, as follows:

 فَلَمَّا قَضَى مُوسَى الْأَجَلَ وَسَارَ بِأَهْلِهِ آَنَسَ مِنْ جَانِبِ الطُّورِ

 نَارًا  قَالَ لِأَهْلِهِ امْكُثُوا إِنِّي آَنَسْتُ نَارًا لَعَلِّي آَتِيكُمْ مِنْهَا بِخَبَرٍ أَوْ جَذْوَةٍ مِنَ

النَّارِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَصْطَلُونَ. فَلَمَّا أَتَاهَا نُودِيَ مِنْ شَاطِئِ الْوَادِ الْأَيْمَنِ فِي الْبُقْعَةِ

الْمُبَارَكَةِ مِنَ الشَّجَرَةِ أَنْ يَا مُوسَى إِنِّي أَنَا اللَّهُ رَبُّ الْعَالَمِينَ

 (القصص:۲٩-٣٠)

“Now when Moses had fulfilled the term, and was

 travelling with his family, he perceived a fire in the direction of Mount Tur.  He said to his family: ‘Tarry ye; I perceive a fire; I  hope to bring you from there some information, or a burning  firebrand, that ye may warm yourselves.  But when he came  to the (Fire), he was called from the right bank of the valley,  from a tree in hallowed ground: ‘O Moses! Verily  I am

Allah, the Lord of the worlds.”[9]

 The meeting in mirāj was with preparation. Allah sent Gabriel and Michael to accompany the Prophet to heaven, while Prophet Moses’ meeting with Allah was without preparation: he saw fire at night, told his wife to stay and went to the fire where Allah talked to him. He did not come to talk to Allah, but to take some fire or to find guidance at the fire.  He might have lost his way, he wanted physical guidance, and instead, he got spiritual guidance.

2.    Prophet Muhammad went to heaven on the Burāq, while Prophet Moses walked when he entered the sacred valley T.uwā’. He was ordered by Allah to take off his shoes when he entered the valley, according to some commentators, symbolizes leaving the material world behind when he entered the spiritual one.

3.  Both meetings ended with the injunction of prayers, which indicates the importance of prayers.

The heaven that is spoken about here is not the outer space, the stars and galaxies, but far beyond. The Prophet was not sent to teach astronomy, but to give spiritual guidance, to show the right path, the way to salvation.  Man discovered the universe later by himself.  We know that the nearest star (sun) to us is Alpha Centauri which is 4.3 light years. Until the 1920s, man knew one galaxy only, the Milky Way, in which the sun is one of the stars.  About fifty years later, the astronomers said that the universe contains about five billion galaxies, each with approximately 100 billion stars.

With regard to the isrā’, the mi’rāj, the seven heavens, and the Sidrat al-Muntahā, they are mysteries. We believe in them as we believe in the Resurrection, the Judgement Day, Paradise and Hell.

 

 

 

 

26. FASTING IN ISLAM (1)

The Muslims of Edmonton and elsewhere are observing the fasting of the month of Ramadan, the ninth month of the Islamic year. Fasting (الصَّوْم) technically means to abstain completely from food, drink, intimate intercourse and smoking, before the break of the dawn till sunset, during the entire month of Ramadan.

Fasting is the third pillar of Islam after the shahādah (bearing witness that there is no god but Allah and Muhammad is His messenger) and the five daily prayers. Other pillars of Islam are zakāh and h.ajj. Zakāh is an annual tax of 2.5 % of one’s net savings as a purifying sum to be distributed among the poor in the community. H...ajj is the pilgrimage to the Ka‘bah in Mecca, once in a lifetime, to those who are healthy and have the means to do so.

The prescription of fasting was revealed by Allah to Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h.) in the second year of Hijrah (migration of the Prophet and his followers from Mecca to Madinah in 622 to avoid the persecution of the Meccan infidels). The Qur’ān, the very words of Allah revealed to Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h.) says:

 يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آَمَنُوا كُتِبَ عَلَيْكُمُ الصِّيَامُ

كَمَا كُتِبَ عَلَى الَّذِينَ مِنْ قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

(البقرة: ۱٨٣)

“O ye who believe!  Fasting is prescribed to

 you as it was prescribed to those before you,

 that ye may (learn) self-restraint.”[10]

As the Muslim calendar is based on lunar calendar, Ramadan can be in any season of the year. As Ramadan this year (1986 here in Edmon-ton) is in late spring, the Muslim community of this area is fasting about 18 hours (in summer, about 19 hours). Before dawn Muslims are highly recommended to have their light meal so that fasting will not be too hard for them.

Very old people, pregnant women and the sick are exempt from fasting.  Old people have to pay a sum of money or food to feed the poor. Pregnant women and sick people fast respectively after delivery and recovery. To healthy people fasting is far from being dangerous. Man can survive without food for several weeks. Without water in normal condition he can survive not more than 70 or 80 hours, i.e., about 3 days. However, it was reported that a baby survived miraculously after being trapped in a collapsed building for one week in Mexico City when this city was being devastated by earthquake last year (1985).

Abstaining from water in 18 or 19 hours is only one-fourth of the length of time that can cause death from starvation. Allah says in the Qur’ān:

لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا  (البقرة: ۲٨٦)

“On no soul doth Allah placed a burden

 greater than it can bear”[11]

Beside spiritual advantage such as patience, self-restraint, sympathy with the poor and sincere and deep love for Allah, fasting has also its physical advantages. It has a healing power. The fact that hunger is the best cure to many ailments has been proved and defended by many medical authorities. The historian Herodotus described the early Egyptian who fasted three days a month as extremely healthy people. The Arab and Muslim physician Ibn Sina (Avicenna) prescribed fasting for all ailments. The Nobel Prize winner Dr. Alexis Carrel described important hidden phenomena in fasting when he said:

The sugar of the liver and the fat

of the subcutaneous deposits are mobilized,

and also the proteins of the muscles and the glands.

All the organs sacrifice their own substances in

order to maintain blood, heart and brain in

a normal condition. Fasting purifies and

profoundly modifies our tissues.

         We Muslims are recommended to break our fast with dates or water.  The Prophet said: “Break your fast with a date, for it is blessing; if you have no date, then with water, for it is pure.” According to late Dr. Anwar al-Mufti sweet liquid is absorbed by the intestine in less than five minutes eliminating the symptom of sugar deficiency; sugar in food is absorbed within three or four hours, so that the symptom of sugar deficiency still remains in a person who breaks his fasting with solids rather than sweet liquids as if one is still fasting. Dr. Allen Scott said: ‘Water is a faster’s best friend. It facilitates the flushing or toxins and waste materials that accumulate when fatty tissues are being burned.’” Our beloved Prophet Muhammad had said thirteen centuries ago: صُوْمُوْا تَصِحُّّوْا   “Fast so that you will be healthy.”

 

 

 

 

27.  FASTING IN ISLAM (2)

a.    The Meaning of صَوْم (Fasting)

         The root-meaning of صوم is “to abstain (from doing something), to stand still” (الصَّوْمُ لُغَةً: الإمْسَاكُ وَ تَرْكُ التَّنَقُّلِ مِنْ حَالٍ إلىَ حَالٍ). It includes being silent, as it is abstention from talking. The example from the Qur’ān is when Mary said:

إِنِّي نَذَرْتُ لِلرَّحْمَنِ صَوْمًا فَلَنْ أُكَلِّمَ الْيَوْمَ إِنْسِيًّا

(مريم : ۲٦)

“I have vowed a fast to (Allah) Most

 Gracious,  and this day will I enter into

 no talk  with any human being.”[12]  

 

          When the wind stops blowing it is called doing s.awm (الصَّوْمُ: رُكُوْدُ الرِّيْحِ, وَهُوَ إمْسَاكُهَا عَنِ اْلهُبُوب).  When the sun is at the zenith, the highest point in the sky, it is called doing  sawm, as if it is standstill, not moving.  In Islamic law, s.awm means abstaining from those which will break the fast from dawn to sunset.”  (شَرْعًا: الإمْسَاكُ عَنِ اْلمُفْطِرَاتِ مَعَ اقْتِرَانِ النِّيَّةِ بِهِ مِنْ طُلُوْعِ اْلفَجْرِ إِلىَ غُرُوْبِ الشَّمْسِ).

Allah says in the Qur’ān:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آَمَنُوا كُتِبَ عَلَيْكُمُ الصِّيَامُ كَمَا كُتِبَ عَلَى الَّذِينَ

مِنْ قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ. أَيَّامًا مَعْدُودَاتٍ فَمَنْ كَانَ مِنْكُمْ مَرِيضًا أَوْ عَلَى سَفَرٍ

فَعِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَيَّامٍ أُخَرَ وَعَلَى الَّذِينَ يُطِيقُونَهُ فِدْيَةٌ طَعَامُ مِسْكِينٍ فَمَنْ تَطَوَّعَ خَيْرًا

فَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَهُ وَأَنْ تَصُومُوا خَيْرٌ لَكُمْ إِنْ كُنْتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ.

(البقرة : ۱٨٤)

“O ye who believe! Fasting is prescribed to you as

it was prescribed to those before you  that ye may (learn)

self-restraint. (Fasting) for a fixed number of days; but if

any of you is ill or on a journey the prescribed number

(should be made up) from days later. For those who can

do it (with hardship) is a ransom the feeding of one that

is indigent.; but he that will give more of his own free

will it is better for him and it isbetter for you

that  ye fast if ye only knew.”[13]

Explanation of the verse:

  كَمَا كُتِبَ عَلَى الَّذِينَ مِنْ قَبْلِكُمْ    as it was prescribed to those before you”

Several interpretations are given by Qur’ānic commentators on this expression, among which are as follows:

1.  The similarity is in the time and the quantity of fasting (وَقْتُ الصَّوْمِ وَقَدْرُالصَّوْم) according to al-Sha‘bī and Qatādah. Muh.āhid states that fasting in the month of Ramad.ān was prescribed to every nation.

2.  The similarity is in being prescribed (التَّشْبِيْهُ رَاجِعٌ إلىَ أَصْلِ وُجُوْبِهِ)  , not in its time and nature.

3.  The similarity is in the nature of fasting, namely, the abstention from eating, drinking and sex until one is asleep, according to al-Suddī, Abū ’l-‘Āliyah and al-Rabī‘. This was later abrogated with the verse that follows, namely,

  أُحِلَّ لَكُمْ لَيْلَةَ الصِّيَامِ الرَّفَثُ إِلَى نِسَائِكُمْ (البقرة : ‍‍٨٧۱)

Permitted to you on the night of the fasts

 is the approach to your  wives…”[14]

4. The similarity is in the time and nature of fasting in the beginning, namely, three days every month and the day of ‘Āshūrā’ (10th of Muh.arram, from sunset to sunset), according to Mu‘ādh bin Jabal. Then it was abrogated with the prescription of fasting in the month of Ramad.ān, as mentioned in the next verse, namely,

 شَهْرُ رَمَضَانَ الَّذِي أُنْزِلَ فِيهِ الْقُرْآَنُ هُدًى لِلنَّاسِ ...(البقرة  :۱٨٥)

Ramadan is the( month) in which was sent down

 the Qur’an as a guide to mankind…”[15]

  فَمَنْ كَانَ مِنْكُمْ مَرِيضًاbut if any of you is ill…”

It means that a person who cannot fast because of his illness he is allowed to abstain from fasting, but if he can fast with hardship, he is recommended to abstain from fasting.

 وَعَلَى الَّذِينَ يُطِيقُونَهُ فِدْيَةٌ طَعَامُ مِسْكِينٍ  For those who can do it (with hardship) is a ransom the feeding of one that is indigent.

According to Ibn ‘Abbās it is a permission رُخْصة)) for old people, pregnant and nursing women, if they are anxious about their babies, to abstain from fasting, and feed a poor person (a day). According to Imām Mālik a woman who is sick in pregnancy has to make up the fasting she is missing (without feeding a poor person a day), whereas a woman who is sick in nursing has to make up the missed fasting and to feed a poor person. According to al-Shāfi‘ī and Ah.mad ibn H...anbal, the sick and pregnant women have to make up their missed day of fasting as well as to feed a poor person a day.

فَمَنْ تَطَوَّعَ خَيْرًا فَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَهُ  but he that will give more of his own free will it is better for him”

Some interpretations of this part of the verse:

1. Feeding a poor person as well as fasting according to Ibn Shihāb.

2. Increasing the food according to Mujāhid.

3. Feeding another poor person according to Ibn ‘Abbās

  وَأَنْ تَصُومُوا خَيْرٌ لَكُمْ “and it is better for you that ye fast”

It means that fasting is still better than breaking the fast by paying fidyah (redemption) from the omission of fasting for travelling or non-serious sickness.

  Then Allah said:

 شَهْرُ رَمَضَانَ الَّذِي أُنْزِلَ فِيهِ الْقُرْآَنُ هُدًى لِلنَّاسِ وَبَيِّنَاتٍ

 مِنَ الْهُدَى وَالْفُرْقَانِ فَمَنْ شَهِدَ مِنْكُمُ الشَّهْرَ فَلْيَصُمْهُ وَمَنْ كَانَ مَرِيضًا

 أَوْ عَلَى سَفَرٍ فَعِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَيَّامٍ أُخَرَ يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ بِكُمُ الْيُسْرَ وَلَا يُرِيدُ بِكُمُ الْعُسْرَ

 وَلِتُكْمِلُوا الْعِدَّةَ وَلِتُكَبِّرُوا اللَّهَ عَلَى مَا هَدَاكُمْ وَلَعَلَّكُمْ تَشْكُرُونَ

 (البقرة : ۱٨٥)

“The month of Ramadan in which was sent down the Qur’an as a guide to mankind also clear (Signs) for guidance and judgment (between right and wrong). So everyone of you who is present (at his home) during that month should spend it in fasting but if anyone is ill or on a journey the prescribed period (should be made up) by days later. Allah intends every facility for you. He does not want to put you to difficulties. (He wants you) to complete the prescribed period and

 to glorify Him in that He has guided you; and

perchance ye shall be grateful.”[16]

 Names of the Months

The names of the months in Arabic are originally taken from the time it occurred.  For example, Rabī‘(رَبِيْع)  means “spring”.

 مُحَرَّم (Muh.arram, 30 days) means “inviolable, cannot be violated” as this month was one of the four month where the pre-Islamic Arabs stopped fighting.

 صَفَر (S.afar, 29 days) means “hunger, emptiness”; the word cipher, صَفْر   (s.afr) or صِفْر (s.ifr) means “zero”. It was the time when the city of Mecca (Makkah) became vacant, because its people at this month were travelling. It is also said that people in this month attacked other tribes taking their possessions and making them empty-handed  (صِفْرُ اْليَدَيْن)ِ , as they had nothing left. The two S.afars  means Muh.a-rram and S.afar.

رَبِيِيْعُ الأوَّل   (Rabī‘ al-Awwal,  30 days)  means “the first spring” and 

الآخِر(الثَّانِي) رَبِيْعُ  (Rabī‘ al-Ākhar, Rabī‘ al-Ākhir  or Rabī‘ al-Thānī, 29 days) “the other spring,” “the last spring” or “the second spring”

جُمَادَى الأُوْلَى  (Jumādā ‘l-Ūlā or Jumādī ’l-Awwal, 30 days) “the first freezing” month, and

(الثَّانِيَة) جُمَادَى الآخِرَة  (Jumādā ’l-ākhirah, Jumādī ’l-Ākhir or Jumādī      ’l-Thānī, 29 days) “the other freezing”, “the last freezing” or “the second freezing” month. These two names of the two months were given while water was freezing at that time.

 رَجَب (Rajab, 30 days) The verb رَجَِبَ رَجْبا وَ رُجُوْبًا  means “to be ashamed, to be shy”. The word أَرْجَبَ الرَّجُلُ رَجْبًا وَ تَرْجِيْبًا  means هَابَهُ وَ عَظَّمَهُ “the man respects and glorifies it (something)”, as this month of Rajab was glorified in pre-Islamic Arabia (Jāhiliyyah period), they did not go to war in this month. The expression “the two  رَجَبْRajabs means Rajab and Sha‘bān.

شَعْبَان  (Sha‘bān, 29 days) means “scattered”.  تَشَعَّبَ اْلقَوْمُ  means “people dispersed”. The word shu‘bah originally means “a group of people, فِرْقَة ”. Now it means “section, division, department.” In this month the Arabs scattered searching for water.

رَمَضَان (Ramad.ān, 30 days) is from the word  الرَّمْضَاء  (al-ramd.ā’), meaning “the sun-baked ground”. The name was given to this month when it was so hot that the ground became sun-baked. It is also said that in this month people heat (sharpened) their weapons to fight with it in the month of Shawwāl before the arrival of the inviolable months where fighting was not allowed by their traditional law. These months were Dhu ’l-Qi‘dah, Dhu ’l-H...ijjah, Muh.arram and Rajab. Another view says that in this month the sins will be heated  (burned) with good deeds.  Al-Māwardī said that the name of this month in pre-Islamic time was Nāt.iq (نَاطِق).

شَوَّال   (Shawwāl, 29 days)  was called so when the camels raised their tails (لِشَوْلانِ النَّاَقةِ بِذَنَبِهَا), probably, the mating season.

ذُو ْالقِعْدَة (Dhu ’l-Qi‘dah, 30 days)  (lit. “time for sitting down”), it was the time where the Arabs avoid raiding, looking for supply and searching for pasture. It was the month of relaxation.

ذُو ْالحِجَّة  (Dhu ’l-H...ijjah, 29 days) the month of pilgrimage. H...ajj had been practised by the pagan Arabs in pre-Islamic Arabia. Upon their return from their travel, they did not go directly home and changed their clothes; instead, they took them off, and went to make t.awāf around the Ka‘bah, naked, at night. At the early period of Islam the Muslims performed the h.ajj with them but in Islamic way.

The meaning of the verse:

 شَهْرُ رَمَضَانَ الَّذِي أُنْزِلَ فِيهِ الْقُرْآَنُ “The month of Ramadan in which was sent down the Qur’ān”

1.The month of Ramadan is the month in which the Qur’ān was revealed.

2. (The month in which you are enjoined to fast is) the month of Ramadan in which the Qur’ān was revealed.

3. (It is prescribed to you) the month of Ramadan in which the Qur’ān was revealed.

 فَمَنْ شَهِدَ مِنْكُمُ الشَّهْرَ فَلْيَصُمْهُ  “So everyone of you who is present (at his home) during that month.”

The word شَهِدَ means, “to see, to witness” either with eyesight or with insight. The word الشَّهْر means “the month” not “the crescent” which is  اْلهِلال  in Arabic. Therefore, the verse means, if we just stop here, lit. “Whoever witness the month (of Ramadan) with his insight” and in a better expression “whosoever is present in this month.”  However, in pre-Islamic poetry, the word شَهْر  (month) could also mean هِلال (crescent). An unidentified poet says:

أَخَـوَانِ مِنْ نَجْـدٍ عَـلىَ ثِقَـةٍ   *    وَ الشَّهْـرُ مِثُلُ قُلامَـةِ الظّفُـرِ

حَـتّى تَكَامَـلَ فِي ْاسـتِدَارَتِـهِ   *    فِي أَرْبَـٍع زَادَتْ عَـلىَ عَشَـِر

"The coming of two brothers from Najd is certain

when the crescent [lit. ‘the month’] is like the cutting

 of the nail until it becomes completely round

 at the 14th (of the month)".

The Significance of Fasting

Al-Ghazālī says that hunger produces the following beneficial results: (a) Purification of the soul and illumination of the mind; (b) the capacity to employ spiritual pleasures; (c) humility (d) remembrance of the poor; (e) freedom from all sinful desires; (f) resistance to the temptation to sleep, and a stimulus to vigils; (g) the affording opportunity for the ritual of worship; (h) gaining physical health; (i) the reduction of expenses; and (j) provision of means to feed the poor.

There are three levels of fasting:

1. The fasting of the ‘awām, the common people: abstaining from food and sexual passion.

2. The fasting of the khawās., the elect: abstaining from seeing, hearing, speaking, and committing sin with hands, legs and the rest of the limbs.

3. The fasting of the khawās, al-khawās., the elect of the elect:  abstaining from bad intention and from thinking of worldly things.

Ramad.ān in the month of patience  (شَهْرُ الصَّبْر), the month of self control: controlling our emotion by avoiding bad intentions, controlling our tongue from saying bad things, and controlling our actions from doing bad things. Junayd was asked about patience.  He said, “Swallowing something bitter without wrinkling your face.” Dhū 'l-Nūn al-Mis. said: “Patience is avoiding what is against religion, and being calm, not being upset or complaining in the face of calamity, poverty and the hardship of life.” An unidentified poet says: 

إذَا شَكَوْتَ إلىَ ابْنِ آدَمَ إنَّمَا   *   تَشْكِيْ الرَّحِيْمَ عَلىَ الَّذِي لا يَرْحَمُ

“If you complain to the son of Adam (i.e., a human being), you

 actually complain to a non-mercufil against the Merciful”

28. FASTING AND HEALTH

          Sometimes we are in a situation where we are compelled to fast. For example, we are on a journey and suddenly stranded in a foreign land and are short of food. Yet, we survive. In winter 1963, two people survived from a plane crash on a mountainside in Northern British Columbia in Canada. For over one month they lived on water only without food. They had been very fat.  When they were rescued 49 days after the crash they were found in good condition.

          In the animal kingdom, fasting, lack of food, even famine are common.  Yet, the animals survive. They rarely die of starvation. The hibernating bear, for example, without taking any  food for long periods, will give birth to her cub and secrete milk for her young. It is said that the starfish may grow a new stomach, new tube feet and new arms while fasting. The same with the salamandar. Without taking any food its lost tail will grow a new one. In spite of temporal lack of food life continues  in the animal world.

          Fasting (الصَّوْم) is one of the fundamentals of Islam. By showing our devotion to Allah in fasting, we get spiritual and physical benefits from it.  Physicians throughout his­tory hhave confirmed the truth of the statement of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) when he said:

صُوْمُوْا تَصِحُّوْا (رواه الطبراني)

"Fast, so that you will be healthy."[17]

          The Greek historian and traveler Herodotus (484-420 B.C.) described the early Egyptians who fasted three days a month as extremely healthy people. This type of fasting was prescribed in Islam shortly after the Prophet's emigration from Mecca to Madinah. Allah says: "O ye who believe! Fasting is prescribed to you as it was prescribed to those before you, that ye may (learn) self-restraint, -  (Fasting) for a fixed number of days;..." [18] "A fixed number of days" means three days a month. [19] This type of fasting was later replaced with the fasting in the month of Ramadan. Allah says: "Ramadan is the (month) in which was sent down the Qur’ān, as a guide to mankind, also clear (signs) for guidance and judgment (between right and wrong).  So every one of you who is present (at his home) during that month should spend it in fasting,..."[20]

          The Muslim physician and philosopher Ibn Sina (Avicen­na, 980-1037 C.E.) was said to have prescribed fasting for all ailments. Fasting has been used in the treatment of patients suffering from metabolic disorders, allergic diseases, skin diseases, asthma, etc., in clinics and sanitariums in Switzerland, France, Russia, India, and Germany since the mid-19th century. Dr. Edward Dewey wrote a cen­tury ago:

"I contend that during illness feeding

becomes a burden to the sick. It uses energy that

otherwise would be used to fight illness."

The French Noble Prize winner in 1912, Dr. Alexis Carrel (1837-1944 C.E.) described the important phenomena in fasting when he said:

"The sugar of the liver and

the fat of subcutaneous deposits are

mobi­lized, also the proteins of the muscles

and the glands. All the organs sacrifice their

own substances in order to main­tain blood,

heart and brain in a normal condition.

Fasting purifies and profoundly

modifies our tissues."

          Among the 27 benefits of fasting mentioned by Dr. Allan Cott in his Fasting: the Ultimate Diet are to lose weight, to give the whole system a rest, to clean out the body, to lower blood pressure and cholesterol levels, to cut down on smoking and drinking, to let the body heal itself, to relief tension, to sleep better, to digest food better, to regulate bowels, to learn better eating habits, and to slow the aging process.

          In the animal world animals use nature's way to heal themselves. When they are ill, they find a quiet place where they rest and stop eating. Even domesticated animals such as cats and dogs and even "dumb" cows are smart enough to stop eating when they are ill. By fasting the animal creates within its body a biochemical state which help it to quick recovery. But man acts on the opposite direction of the animal law when he is ill. Man and only man who persists and insists in eating when he is ill, although his body rejects food, when sweets taste bitter, and even when he has no appetite.

          An article in the Health magazine stated that if the average person were to fast one day out of every week for the whole year "he would be no older in body at the year's end than in the beginning." In other words, although his chronological age continues, his physical age stops with fasting. This is very good news for us Muslims. If we fast every Monday or every Thursday, or every Monday and Thursday of the week as recommended by our religion, we shall not only get reward from Allah, but also slow the process of our aging.

          Prof. C.M. Child of the University of Chicago reveals in his over fifteen years of research on aging in animals that periodic fasting is generally conductive to rejuvenescence. He found that in certain species of insects, insects with abundant food live in three to four weeks. But if the food is greatly reduced or the insects are forced to fast, they may continue to be active and young for at least three years. This statement reminds us of the swarm of locusts that suddenly appeared and multiplied in millions and devastating crops in Africa and Asia, but suddenly disappeared. Why? Being overfed, they killed themselves by eating too much. However, some were not overfed, and therefore, were not completely destroyed, and had chance to survive longer and to breed and to threaten us again in the future. Overeating is dangerous, but fasting could maintain your health. Let us learn from nature.  Nature is a book, and to read it nobody is illiterate.

          Fasting is not starving. It takes a long fast to come to starvation.  Doctors say that man can survive without food for several weeks, but can survive without water for about three days only. However, an exception did occur when a baby was reported to have survived miraculously after being trapped in a collapsed building for one week in Mexico city when this city was being devastated by earthquake in 1985. Abstaining from water in 18 or even 19 hours of fasting in summer for Muslim people living near the northern or the southern pole is only one-fourth on the length of time that can cause death from starvation. Even if they fast without having their suhur (pre-dawn meal) and fast 24 hours, this is still only one-third of the length of time that can cause them die of starvation. Therefore, fasting on the longest day of Ramadan in summer is far from being dangerous to healthy people. Allah Himself says:

لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا (البقرة : ٨٦۲)

"Allah asketh not a soul beyond its scope..."[21]

          In order to make fasting easier, the Prophet recommends us to have our pre-dawn meal (suh.ūr). Mālik b. Anas reported the Prophet said: "Have your pre-dawn meal for it is blessing." He also recommends us to break our fasting with dates or water. He said: "Break your fast with dates, for they are a blessing; if you do not have dates, then with water, for it is pure."  The late Dr. Anwar al-Muftī gives us his comment on the last h.adīth, saying that sweet liquid is absorbed by the intestines in less than five minutes, eliminating the symptom of sugar deficiency in a short time; sugar in food is absorbed within three or four hours, so that the symptom of sugar deficiency still remains in a person who breaks his fasting with solids rather than sweet liquids as if one is still fasting.

          We have one teaspoonful of sugar in our blood. If the amount of sugar in our blood increases, we may have sugar problem, diabetes, namely, the pancreas cannot properly absorb sugar and starchy foods. If the amount is reduced a little, we may feel tired, but if it is reduced to half, we shall lose consciousness. This is the importance of sugar. The fastest way of supplying our blood with sugar is by drinking sweet liquids, and the best sweet liquid for our blood is honey. It is because honey contains 40 % dextrose which is quickly absorbed into our blood, and 34 % levulose which is slowly absorbed into our blood, so that with honey the supply of sugar into our blood lasts longer.

          With regard to the benefit of water for breaking the fast, Dr. Allan Cott said: "Water is the faster's best friend. It facilitates the flushing of toxins and waste materials that accumulate when fatty tissues are being 'burned.'"

          Wild animals know by instinct how to live, what to eat and drink. But man, the most intelligent being on earth, eats the food that is most difficult to digest and drink unhealthy, "poisonous" drinks. The caffeine in coffee, tea, chocolate, and soft drinks like coca-cola, and the nicotine in tobacco are all "poisons," not the lethal poisons that kill instantly, but the legal ones. They are stimulants that just tickle our body. When our body cries for sleep and rest, instead of giving what it wants, we say: "No, this is no time for sleep and rest." So, we take these stimulants and feel "fresh" again, an artificial freshness. Stimulating our nervous system the caffeine makes us feel more awake and encourages activity and conversation. And we do this every­day throughout our lives. No wonder if man does not live long enough and reach easily the age of 100 years.

          The animal's minimum life span is said to be five times the period required for it to mature. For example, the chicken matures at the age of six months, easily lives to be two and a half years old; the dog matures at the age of one, easily lives to be five; the calf matures at two, easily lives to be twelve; the horse matures at four, easily lives to be twenty. Man matures at the age of twenty, and is supposed to be able to live easily to be one hundred years old, but, alas, at the age of sixty he has already become semi-invalid.

          Fasting is the key to health. It purifies every cell in our body. Fourteen centuries ago our beloved Prophet Muham­mad (p.b.u.h.) had said: "Fast, so that you will be heal­thy."

          May this little information be helpful in strengthening our faith and heightening our spirit in performing the obligatory fasting in this holy month of Ramadan as well as the recommended fasting on other days of the year, amin!!!

 

 

 

 

29.  ‘ĪD AL-FIT.R

اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر   اللهُ أَكْبَر   اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  (9 مرات)

اللهُ أَكْبَرُ كَبِيْرًا وَ الْحَمْدُ لِلهِ كَثِيْرًا وَ سُبْحَانَ اللهِ بُكْرَةً وَ أَصِيْلًا.

الْحَمْدُ لِلّهِ الَّذِيْ جَعَلَ الْيَوْمَ عِيْدًا لِعِبَادِهِ الْمُؤْمِنِيْنَ وَخَتَمَ بِهِ شَهْرَ الصِّيَامِ لِلْمُخْلِصِيْنَ وَ جَعَلَ فِيْ طَاعَتِهَِ عِزَّ الدُّنْيَا وَ اْلآخِرَةِ لِلطَّائِعِيْنَ وَ فِيْ مَعْصِيَتِهِ ذُلُّ الدَّارَيْنِ ِللْعَاصِيْنَ.

أَْشْهَدُ أَنْ لا إلَهَ إلاّ اللهُ وَحْدَهُ صَدَقَ وَعْدَهُ وَ نَصَرَ عَبْدَهُ وَ أَعَزَّ جُنْدَهُ وَ هَزَمَ اْلأحْزَابَ وَحْدَهُ.

وَ أشْهَدُ أنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَ رَسُوْلُهُ اْلمَشْهُوْرُ بِفَطَانَتِهِ وَ أمَانَتِهِ وَ صِدْقِهِ وَ تَبْلِيْغِهِ. صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ عَلَى آلِهِ وَ صَحْبِهِ أجْمَعِيْن.

أمَّا بَعْدُ, فَيَا عِبَادَ اللهِ , أُوْصِيْكُمْ وَ إيَّايَ بِتَقْوَى اللهِ فَقَدْ فَازَ الْمُتَّقُوْن.

Brothers and sisters in Islam:

          Today is ‘Īd al-Fit.r, the feast day of fast breaking, celebrated by Muslims all over the world as a sign of thanks and appreciation to Allah Who gave them the ability to endure hunger and thirst for His sake alone.  Today is the day of happiness and therefore we shall make other people happy: our children, our spouses, our brothers and sisters, our parents, our relatives, friends, neighbours, any Muslim. To those who fast out of faith Allah will forgive their sins, minor sins. With regard to major sins, such as killing and drinking alcohol, one has to repent to Allah in order to be forgiven.

Brothers and sisters in Islam

          To err is human, nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes. Some-times we hurt other people’s feelings, intentionally or unintentionally. We might have quarreled, fought and resented each other. This is the time for forgiving each other, for the sake of keeping the unity among us and strengthening our relations. This is the time to erase any bad feeling among us. Without doing this we are not going to be happy on this day, we are just pretending to be happy.

          Let us take away from us any idea of revenge. The Prophet as our model never took revenge for himself. He did not revenge for the killing of his uncle by al-Wahshi. After the death of the Prophet, al-Wah.shī killed Musaylimah who claimed to be a prophet at the battle of Yamamah. Al- Wah.shī then said: “I have killed the best man (meaning the Prophet’s uncle Hamzah) and the worst man (meaning Musaylimah). Listen to the following h.adīth:

عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مَسْعُودٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ

صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَلَا أُخْبِرُكُمْ بِمَنْ يَحْرُمُ عَلَى النَّارِ أَوْ بِمَنْ

تَحْرُمُ عَلَيْهِ النَّارُ عَلَى كُلِّ قَرِيبٍ هَيِّنٍ سَهْلٍ

   (رواه الترمذي).

“It was narrated by Ibn Mas‘ūd, may Allah

be pleased with him, who said: The Messenger of

Allah said: Shall I tell you the thing which is prohibited

from Hellfire, or the person who is prohibited from

Hellfire? It is prohibited to every simple,

gentle and easy person.”[22]

          In another tradition the Prophet said: “There are three kinds of persons who are decreed to enter Heaven: the just ruler, the compas-sionate tender-hearted person, and the modest and honest person.” Isolating oneself from the community because of one’s inability to stand other people’s wrongdoing is not recommended by the Prophet. Listen to the following tradition:

عَنْ ابْنِ عُمَرَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ

وَسَلَّمَ الْمُؤْمِنُ الَّذِي يُخَالِطُ النَّاسَ وَيَصْبِرُ عَلَى أَذَاهُمْ أَعْظَمُ أَجْرًا مِنْ

الْمُؤْمِنِ الَّذِي لَا يُخَالِطُ النَّاسَ وَلَا يَصْبِرُ عَلَى أَذَاهُمْ

(رواه ابن ماجة وأحمد والبيهقي والطبراني)

“It is narrated by Ibn ‘Umar that the Prophet

said: ‘The Muslim who mingles  with people and is patient

with their wrong-doings has more recompense than a Muslim

who does not mingle with people because he cannot

tolerate their wrong-doings.”[23]

Brothers and sisters in Islam:

         Whoever among you is able to fast six days after Ramad.ān, let him do it, for the Prophet said that those who do it will have the reward of fasting the whole year. As the reward of one good deed is ten-fold, the reward of 36 (or 35) days of fasting is that of 360 (or 350) days of fasting, namely, one year.

         Let us celebrate this day with full of joy and happiness by forgiving each other and visiting each other. Visit the Muslims whom you have not visited.

 اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر , لا إلَهَ إلاّ اللهُ  وَ اللهُ أَكْبَر , اللهُ أَكْبَر وَ لِلّهِ اْلحَمْد

 

 

(THE SECOND KHUT.BAH)

 اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر   اللهُ أَكْبَر   اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  (9 مرات)

  لا إلَهَ إلاّ اللهُ وَحْدَهُ صَدَقَ وَعْدَهُ وَ نَصَرَ عَبْدَهُ وَ أَعَزَّ جُنْدَهُ وَ هَزَمَ اْلأحْزَابَ وَحْدَهُ.

 لا إلَهَ إلاّ اللهُ وَ لا نَعْبُدُ إلاّ إيَّاهُ مُخْلِصِيْنَ لَهُ الدِّْينَ وَ لَوْ كَرِهَ اْلكَافِرُوْن.

نَحْمَدُ اللهَ حَقَّ حَمْدِهِ وَ نَشْكُرُهُ حَقَّ شُكْرِهِ.

 أَْشْهَدُ أَنْ لا إلَهَ إلاّ اللهُ وَحْدَهُ لا شَرِيْكَ لَهُ وَ أَشْهَدُ أنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَ رَسُوْلُهُ.

أمَّا بَعْدُ, فَيَا عِبَادَ اللهِ , أُوْصِيْكُمْ وَ إيَّايَ بِتَقْوَى اللهِ فَقَدْ فَازَ الْمُتَّقُوْن.

 Brothers and sisters in Islam:

      Let us forgive each other and shake hands.  Now let us pray together:

اللَّهُمَّ اغْفِرْ لِلْمُؤْمِنِيْنَ وَ اْلمُؤْمِنَاتِ وَ الْمُسْلِمِيْنَ وَ اْلمُسْلِمَاتِ  ْالأحْيَاءِ مِنْهُمْ وِ ْالأمْوَات.

 رَبَّنَا آَتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الْآَخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ.

(You can cite any other du‘a you know or remember, even in English or other language understood by the congregation). Then conclude the khut.bah with the following takbir, i.e., glorification of Allah, but it is only optional).

  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر   اللهُ أَكْبَر, لا إلَهَ إلاّ اللهُ  وَ اللهُ أَكْبَر , اللهُ أَكْبَر وَ لِلّهِ اْلحَمْد

 

 

 

 

30. ‘ĪD AL-AD.HYĀ

اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر   اللهُ أَكْبَر   اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر  (9 مرات)

اللهُ أَكْبَرُ وَلِلَّهِ الْحَمْدُ

الْحَمْدُ لِلّهِ الَّذِيْ جَعَلَ الْيَوْمَ عِيْدًا لِلِمُسْلِمِيْنَ وَ جَعَلَ  عِبَادَةَ الْحَجِّ وَعِيْدَ الأضْحَى مِنْ شَعَائِرِ اللهِ  وَإحْيَائِهَا مِنْ تَقْوَى ْ      اْلقُلُوْبِ.

أَْشْهَدُ أَنْ لا إلَهَ إلاّ اللهُ وَحْدَهُ لا شَرِيْكَ لَهُ وَ أَشْهَدُ أنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَ رَسُوْلُهُ اْلمَبْعُوْثُ رَحْمَةً لِلْعَالَمِيْنَ بَشِيْرًا وَ نَذِيْرًا وَ دَاعِيَا إلىَ اللهِ وَ سِرَاجًا مٌُنِيْرًا.

 أمَّا بَعْدُ, أُوْصِيْكُمْ وَ إيَّايَ بِتَقْوَى اللهِ فَقَدْ فَازَ الْمُتَّقُوْن.

أَعُوْذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ . بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيمِ  . وَمَنْ يُعَظِّمْ شَعَائِرَ اللَّهِ فَإِنَّهَا مِنْ تَقْوَى الْقُلُوبِ  

Brothers and sisters in Islam

          Today we are celebrating ‘Īd al-Ad.h.ā, the Feast of Sacrifice. Two important events occur on this day. The fist is that Muslims in various parts of the world are performing their pilgrimage a Mecca. It is an international convention for mankind where over two million people get together in one place at one time once a year. They come irrespective of their colour, nationality, social status or language. It is a journey where you can see your brothers and sisters in faith coming from every corner of the world. It is the most significant journey for a Muslim, as Qbū Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet said:

   الْحَجُّ الْمَبْرُورُ لَيْسَ لَهُ جَزَاءٌ إِلَّا الْجَنَّةُ

(رواه أحمد و البيهقي و الطبراني)

  “The reward of accepted pilgrimage

 is nothing but Paradise.”[24]

          Pilgrimage is a kind of jihād.  A tradition runs as follows:

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا أَنَّهَا قَالَتْ

يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ تُرَى الْجِهَادَ أَفْضَلَ الْعَمَلِ أَفَلَا نُجَاهِدُ

قَالَ لَكِنَّ أَفْضَلَ الْجِهَادِ حَجٌّ مَبْرُورٌ

(رواه البخاري و البيهقي)

“‘Ā’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her,

said: I said  ‘O Messenger of Allah, since jihād

is the best work, why don’t we (women) go for

the jihād?’  He replied: ‘But the best

jihad is doing the pilgrimage’”[25]

          The second event is that Muslims all over the world go to the mosque or the field to perform the ‘Id al-Adha prayer and listen to the khut.bah (sermon).

 اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر   اللهُ أَكْبَر

          When Prophet Abraham (Ibrāhīm, p.b.u.h.) became old and still had no son, his wife Sarah permitted him to marry his servant Hajar. From Hajar, Ishmael (Ismā‘īl) was born. The Old Testament said that Abraham was 86 years old at that time. Fourteen years later, Isaac (Ish.āq) was born from Sarah. Before Isaac was born Allah had ordered Prophet Abraham through a dream to sacrifice his only son Ishmael. It is mentioned in the Qur’ān as follows:

فَلَمَّا بَلَغَ مَعَهُ السَّعْيَ قَالَ يَا بُنَيَّ إِنِّي أَرَى

فِي الْمَنَامِ أَنِّي أَذْبَحُكَ فَانْظُرْ مَاذَا تَرَى قَالَ يَا أَبَتِ افْعَلْ

مَا تُؤْمَرُ سَتَجِدُنِي إِنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ مِنَ الصَّابِرِينَ. فَلَمَّا أَسْلَمَا وَتَلَّهُ لِلْجَبِينِ. وَنَادَيْنَاهُ

أَنْ يَا إِبْرَاهِيمُ. قَدْ صَدَّقْتَ الرُّؤْيَا إِنَّا كَذَلِكَ نَجْزِي الْمُحْسِنِينَ.

إِنَّ هَذَا لَهُوَ الْبَلَاءُ الْمُبِينُ. وَفَدَيْنَاهُ بِذِبْحٍ عَظِيمٍ

  (الصافات: ۲٠‍۱ ‌- ۱٠٧)

“Then, when (the son) reached (the age of) (serious) work

with him, he said: “O my son! I have seen in a dream that I

offer thee in sacrifice: now see what is thy view!’  (The son) said:

‘O my father! Do as thou art commanded: Thou will find me, if Allah so wills one of the steadfast.’  So when they had both submitted (to Allah) and he had laid him prostrate on his forehead (for sacrifice) We called out to him, ‘O Abraham!  Thou hast already fulfilled the dream!  Thus indeed do We reward

 those who do right.  For this was a clear trial—and

We ransomed him with a momentous sacrifice.”[26]

          Satan had tried to persuade Prophet Abraham to disobey Allah, not to sacrifice his son, but Prophet Abraham was firm in his decision to obey Allah. He threw stones at Satan. Following this example of not listening to Satan and obeying Allah completely, even to sacrifice one’s own son, Muslims at Mina threw pebbles at stones symbolizing Satan in three places where Satan appeared to Prophet Abraham.

          This is the Qur’ānic version which we believe. The other version is that of the Old Testament. In Genesis 16:16 it is said: “And Abraham was fourscore and six years (namely, 86 years) old when Hajar bare Ishmael to Abraham.” In the Genesis 21:5 it is said “And Abraham was an hundred years old when his son Isaac was born unto him.” This is comfirmed with Genesis 17:24-25 in which it is stated that Ishmael was thirteen years old when Abraham was ninety-nine. Notice the difference between those two verses: In the first verse it is mentioned “Hajar bare Ishmael to him,” namely his son through implication, not explicitly, while in the other verse it is said ”his son Isaac was born” where Isaac is mentioned explicitly the son of Abraham. From these two Biblical verses we also learn that Ishmael was fourteen years older than his younger brother Isaac. But Genesis chapter 22 that mentions this story said in verse as follows: ‘[God told Abraham]: Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and get thee into land of Moriah.” This verse implies, either Prophet Abraham had one son only (Isaac) whom he loved, which is contradictory to the previous verse,[27] or he had another son (Ishmael) but he loved Isaac only, an attitude which should not ‍‌‍‌‍‍‍‍‌‍‌‍‍‌‍‌‌‍be attributed to a great prophet of Allah who was a model to his people. Moreover, Ishmael was the answer of Prophet Abraham’s prayer for a son.  He prayed:

 رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنَ الصَّالِحِينَ. فَبَشَّرْنَاهُ بِغُلَامٍ حَلِيمٍ

(الصافات :‍‍۱٠٠ -۱٠۱)

O my Lord! Grant me a righteous (son).

 So We gave him the good new

 of a forbearing son.”[28] 

 It is unthinkable that a chosen person like Prophet Abraham did not love his righteous and forbearing son Ishmael. He took his baby Ishmael and wife Hajar to the valley of Mecca, not because he did not love them, but because it was the command of Allah.

          Prophet Abraham showed his happiness and gratitude to Allah for having two sons, as mentioned in the Qur’ān,

 الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ الَّذِي وَهَبَ لِي عَلَى الْكِبَرِ إِسْمَاعِيلَ

 وَإِسْحَاقَ إِنَّ رَبِّي لَسَمِيعُ الدُّعَاءِ

 (إبراهيم : ٣٩)

.  “Praise be to Allah, Who hath granted

 unto me in old age Isma‘il and Isaac: for truly my

 Lord is He, the Hearer of prayer.[29]

He also prayed for himself and his offspring, as follows

 رَبِّ اجْعَلْنِي مُقِيمَ الصَّلَاةِ وَمِنْ ذُرِّيَّتِي رَبَّنَا وَتَقَبَّلْ دُعَاءِ

 (إبراهيم : ٤٠)

O my Lord! Make me one who establishes regular

 prayer, and also (raise such) among my offspring.

 O my Lord! And accept my prayer.”[30]

          In Mecca Prophet Abraham and his son Ishmael built the foundation of the Ka‘bah.  Allah says:

وَإِذْ يَرْفَعُ إِبْرَاهِيمُ الْقَوَاعِدَ مِنَ الْبَيْتِ وَإِسْمَاعِيلُ رَبَّنَا تَقَبَّلْ مِنَّا

إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ. رَبَّنَا وَاجْعَلْنَا مُسْلِمَيْنِ لَكَ وَمِنْ ذُرِّيَّتِنَا أُمَّةً مُسْلِمَةً

لَكَ وَأَرِنَا مَنَاسِكَنَا وَتُبْ عَلَيْنَا إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ التَّوَّابُ الرَّحِيمُ. رَبَّنَا وَابْعَثْ

فِيهِمْ رَسُولًا مِنْهُمْ يَتْلُو عَلَيْهِمْ آَيَاتِكَ وَيُعَلِّمُهُمُ الْكِتَابَ

وَالْحِكْمَةَ وَيُزَكِّيهِمْ إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ الْعَزِيزُ الْحَكِيمُ

(البقرة :  ۱۲٧‌-۱۲٩)

“And remember Abraham and Isma‘il raised

 the foundations of the House (with this prayer): ‘O our Lord!

  Accept (this service) from us: for Thou art the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing. Our Lord! Make of us Muslims, bowing to Thy (will), and  of our progeny a people Muslim, bowing to Thy (will); and show  us our places for the celebration of (due) rites; and turn unto us  (in mercy); for Thou art the Oft-Relenting, Most Merciful. Our

 Lord! Send amongst them a messenger of their own, who

 shall rehearse Thy signs to them and instruct them in

 scripture and wisdom, and purify them: for

 Thou art the Exalted in Might, the Wise.”[31]

          This prayer was accepted with the advent of Prophet Muhammad who said, as narrated by Abū Ummamah, 

دَعْوَةُ أَبِي إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَبُشْرَى عِيسَى (رواه أحمد و البيهقي و الطبراني)

“(I am the answer of) the prayer of my forefather

 Abraham and the good tidying of Jesus”[32]

          Unlike the Qur’ānic version where Prophet Abraham told his son Ishmael about his dream and, Genesis chapter 22 says that Abraham did not tell his son Isaac that God wanted him to be sacrificed. He kept it secret when Isaac asked: “… but where is the lamb for a burnt offering?  And Abraham said, My son, God will provide himself a lamb for a burnt offering…”[33]  He did not tell his son Isaac that God wanted him to be sacrificed, and did not ask his view. Isaac knew only that he was “the lamb” to be sacrificed when he was bound as mentioned in Genesis 22:9.

          As mentioned in the Qur’ān, Ishmael was consulted, informed that he was to be sacrificed by the command of Allah. He told his father: “Do as you are commanded, I shall be patient”. He was not bound. Both the father and the son were obeying Allah’s command, a tremendous test for both.  A man approaching his 100 years longed for a son, but when he was blessed with a son, an only son, he had to sacrifice him.

          Following the example of Prophet Abraham we Muslims perform the pilgrimage at Mecca, we throw pebbles at the stone pillars symbolizing Satan and sacrifice a lamb at Mina near Mecca. The ritual is much easier than what Prophet Abraham and Ishmael had gone through.  

 

(THE SECOND KHUT.BAH)

  اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر   اللهُ أَكْبَر, لا إلَهَ إلاّ اللهُ  وَ اللهُ أَكْبَر , اللهُ أَكْبَر وَ لِلّهِ اْلحَمْد

الْحَمْدُ لِلّهِ رَبِّ اْلعَالَمِيْنَ.  وَ الصَّلاةُ وَ السَّلامُ عَلىَ أَشْرَفِ اْلمُرْسَلِيْنَ, سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلىَ آلِهِ وَ صَحْبِهِ أَجْمَعِيْنِ.

أمَّا بَعْـُـد

Brothers and sisters in Islam

                   Satan always tries to lead us away from the right way and from obeying Allah.  Allah says:

 إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ لَكُمْ عَدُوٌّ فَاتَّخِذُوهُ عَدُوًّا (فاطر: ٦)

“Verily Satan is an enemy to you:

so treat him as an enemy.”[34]

          There are two kinds of Satan: Satan which we cannot see, among the jinn (genie); the other is Satan from among human beings. They whisper to man’s heart to do bad things.

          There is a story of a pious scholar who was lying on his deathbed and was surrounded by his disciples. They asked him to say the shahādah, namely,  lā ilāha illallāh, muhammadun rasūlullah (“there is no god but Allah and Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah”), as a Muslim is recommended to say. But the scholar said, “No, I won’t.” The disciples started doubting the piety of their teacher who was semi-conscious.  Suddenly, he became conscious and asked: “Did anything happen?”  They said, “yes” and told him what happened. He said: “This is the work of Satan. As he could not deceive me, he was trying to deceive you and make you doubt of my teaching. When you asked me to say the shahādah at the same time Satan asked me to say that there are two gods (meaning god of light and that of darkness).  I told Satan ‘No, I won’t,’ I was not talking to you.

          In a tradition narrated by  H...udhayfah b. al-Yamān the Prophet said:

  يَكُونُ بَعْدِي أَئِمَّةٌ لَا يَهْتَدُونَ بِهُدَايَ وَلَا يَسْتَنُّونَ

بِسُنَّتِي وَسَيَقُومُ فِيهِمْ رِجَالٌ قُلُوبُهُمْ قُلُوبُ

 الشَّيَاطِينِ فِي جُثْمَانِ إِنْسٍ

  (رواه مسلم)

“After me there will be people who do not follow

 my way and guidance, and there will be people who have

 the hearts of Satan in the body of human beings.”[35]

          In another tradition Abī Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet said:

يَخْرُجُ فِي آخِرِ الزَّمَانِ رِجَالٌ يَخْتِلُونَ الدُّنْيَا

بِالدِّينِ يَلْبَسُونَ لِلنَّاسِ جُلُودَ الضَّأْنِ مِنْ اللِّينِ أَلْسِنَتُهُمْ أَحْلَى

مِنْ السُّكَّرِ وَقُلُوبُهُمْ قُلُوبُ الذِّئَابِ

(رواه الترمذي)

“At the end of time there will be crooked

 people, wearing the skin of goat in tenderness,

 having tongues sweeter than sugar,

 but have the hearts of wolves.”[36]

          Let us be careful so that Satan would not be able to lead us away from the right path, and let us make of supplication together.

 أَللّّهُمَّ اغْفِرْ لِلْمٌسْلِمِيْنَ وَ اْلمُسْلِمَاتِ وَ اْلمُؤْمِنِيْنَ وَ اْلمُؤْمِنَاتِ اْلأَحْيَاءِ مِنْهثمْ وَ اْلأَمْوَاتِ, إنَّكَ سَمِيْعٌ قَرِيْبٌ مُجِيْبُ الدَّعَوَاتِ وَ قَاضِيُ الْحَاجَات.

 رَبَّنَا آَتِنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةً وَفِي الْآَخِرَةِ حَسَنَةً وَقِنَا عَذَابَ النَّارِ 

 (You can cite any supplication you know, even in English or the language known by the majority of the members of the congregation)

 اللهُ أَكْبَر  اللهُ أَكْبَر   اللهُ أَكْبَر, لا إلَهَ إلاّ اللهُ  وَ اللهُ أَكْبَر , اللهُ أَكْبَر وَ لِلّهِ اْلحَمْد

 

 

 

 

31.  ENGAGEMENT & MARRIAGE

 السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَ رَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَ بَرَكَاتُه

 بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم


  أَلْحَمْدُ ِللهِ رَبِّ اْلعَالمَيِنْ, وَالصَّلاَةُ وَالسَّلاَمُ عَلىَ أَشْرَفِ اْلمُرْسَلِيْن, سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِهِ وَصَحْبِهِ  أَجْمَعِيْن.  أَمَّا بَعْد :     Brothers and sisters in Islam,

          Today one of our lucky brothers and our lucky sisters are proclaiming their intention to end their solitary lives.   Br. … and Sr. … are lucky because they have finally found each other.

          Br. … and Sr. ..., you are lucky to find what is called “the life companion”   (شَرِيْكُ الْحَيَاةِ وَ شَرِيْكَةُ الْحَيَاة) You are lucky to find your other half. You are lucky for yoAu are going to fulfil the other half of your religion.  Anas b. Mālik narrated that Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h.) said,

إذَا تَزَوَّجَ اْلعَبْدُ فَقَدَ كَمُلَ نِصْفُ الدِّيْنِ ،

 فَلْيَتَّقِ اللهَ فِي النِّصْفِ ْالبَاقِيْ.

 (رواه البيهقي)

“If the servant (of Allah) gets married, half of 

his religion is completed; then he should

fear Allah with the other half.”[37]

No matter how hard one practices Islam, without marriage one cannot make it complete. You see how important marriage is for a Muslim?

          Through marriage you are expected to have children. Having children is an investment. How? By raising your children properly and in Islamic way they will be expected to pray for you when you die, and their prayer will be accepted by Allah.  In one tradition narrated by Abū Hurayrah that the Prophet says:

إِذَا مَاتَ اِبْن آدَمَ اِنْقَطَعَ عَمَلُهُ إِلَّا مِنْ ثَلَاثٍ. صَدَقَةٌ جَارِيَةٌ

أَوْ عِلْمٌ يُنْتَفَعُ بِهِ أَوْ وَلَدٌ صَالِحٌ يَدْعُو لَهُ.

(رواه مسلم)

“When the son of Adam dies his deed ceased

except in three things: perpetual charity, knowledge

from which people get benefit, or a pious son

[or daughter] who prays for him.”[38]

          This decision you are taking is one of the most important events in your lives. If you see a person more handsome or more beautiful, do not be tempted by Satan into saying that you should have married that person. No! One does not marry for beauty alone. One marries personality, character, and now you have found someone you have already trusted, loved, and respected.

          In Indonesia we have a proverb saying “Open your eyes before marriage, and after marriage close your eyes.” It means, before marriage you can look around and try to find the right person. Once you have found her, close your eyes for other girls.

          It is sad to know that one-third of all marriages in North America [as well as in Australia] end with divorce. Although it is permitted in Islam, divorce is discouraged.  Abdullah ibn ‘Umar narrated that Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h.) said:

أَبْغَضُ الْحَلَالِ إِلَى اللَّهِ تَعَالَى الطَّلَاقُ

 (رواه أبوداؤد وابن ماجة والبيهقي)

 “The most detested permitted thing

 according to Allah is the divorce.”[39]

          Now, why are there so many divorces? There are many factors. One of them is the lack of mutual understanding. A person you think you have known very well before marriage suddenly becomes a stranger after marriage. If your wife does not work, but stays at home as a housewife, this does not mean that she just stays at home without doing anything. Therefore, do not be surprised to find your wife tired of working. The following stories may explain my point:

          A businessman, as usual, came to his office in the morning. He was busy reading a newspaper. In the afternoon he called his secretary to whom he dictated a letter. His wife at home was working hard cooking, washing dishes, cleaning the house and many other tasks until she became tired. In the evening her husband came and found her tired. He said to her: “It is unfair! I am the one who works, and you are the one who is tired.” His wife said: “Yes, it is unfair, indeed!” What she means is that although she works hard but because she is not paid, she is considered doing nothing.

          A couple went to a marital counselor for advice. They were complaining against each other. The husband claimed that he worked hard in his office while his wife did not do her work well at home. His wife claimed that housework is very hard, harder than her husband’s work in the office. Each claimed to have harder job. The marital counselor suggested to exchange jobs: the wife to go to her husband’s office and the husband to stay at home cooking, baby sitting, washing dishes and cleaning the house. Amazingly, both the husband and the wife rejected the idea.  They knew that each of them had hard work.

Brothers and sisters

          Allah says in the Qur’ān:

سُبْحَانَ الَّذِي خَلَقَ الْأَزْوَاجَ كُلَّهَا مِمَّا تُنْبِتُ

 الْأَرْضُ وَمِنْ أَنْفُسِهِمْ وَمِمَّا لَا يَعْلَمُونَ.

(يس: ٣٦)

“Glory to Allah, who created in pairs all

 things that the earth produces, aswell as their

 own (human) kind and (other) things of which

 they have no knowledge.” [40]

          Allah created human beings in pairs: man and woman, identical, yet different, and none of them is more human than the other. It is said that men follow reason, while women follow intuition. They are more often right than men in spite of men’s research and fact finding. “In sailing the matrimonial bark,” said Dr. Peck in his book Life with Women and How to Survive It, “always point the ship in the direction you do not want to go.”[41]  What he means is that your spouse will argue with you and will point to another direction. Once she points to the direction you want to go, then agree, or least, you will not go where you really do not want to go.

          Husband and wife relationship is metaphorically portrayed in the Qur’ān as a garment to each other:

  هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَكُمْ وَأَنْتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَهُنَّ (البقرة: ۱٨٧)

"… they are your garments and ye are their garments."[42]

          It means that, they are fitting to each other as a garment to the body.  Like garments which are for show and concealment, they are each  other’s show and concealment. They conceal each other’s secret, (except for consultation, such as to a marital councelor for solving any marital problem). They support, comfort and protect each other. Our garments protect us from hot and cold temprature, and our spouses protect us from commiting indecency and immorality.

          It is oftenly said that for men, love is only a small part of their lives. For women, it is their whole lives. How? Men go to work and become busy, so busy that they do not remember their wives at home. For women at home, they remember their husbands most of the time. They cook for their husbands, and so they remember them. They wash their husbands’ clothes and so they remember them. Everything at home will remind them of their husbands. However, nowadays, women also work, especially if they work full time, there is possible danger of neglecting their husbands. Harmonious marriage life is much better than wealth that could become a threat to this peaceful life.

          Allah created men and women with their pluses and minuses. Men have stronger muscles, are usually taller and have bigger brains. This does not mean that men are more intelligent than women. Cows have even bigger brains. Men are created to be the protectors of their family. That is why they are created with stronger muscles and bigger brains, to act more reasonably rather than following their emotion and intuition. In general men choose women, but women choose men among those who choose them.

          But women in general are healthier than men, although apparently women see the physicians more than men, probably for general checkup.  They live longer statistically, probably because their natural hormones, the estrogens, seem to protect them from the most common form of heart disease. Their response to stress chemically and behaviourally is different from that of men. 

          At birth and in infancy male babies who are born dead are more than female ones. In the first month of their lives thirty percent of male babies die more than female ones. It is said that thirty percent of major birth defects are related to males. Why? Because male babies have to go through more elaborate transformation in the womb. More things can go wrong with them than with female babies.

          The slightest brain damage occurring during or after birth often affect the behaviour and language skills of the baby boys in the left hemisphere of their brains. Therefore, they are four or five times more likely to suffer from language disorders and disabilities than girls. They are more likely to suffer difficulty learning to talk than girls (5 to 1), and with reading and writing (4 to 1). We have just heard (in 1988 in Edmonton) from the radio and watched on TV a two year old girl saved the life of her baby-sitter who suddenly became unconscious. The little girl tried to call the telephone operator. The operator tried to locate the house from which she was calling, then called the police and the ambulance.

          In any community or nation violent crime are mostly committed by men rather than women. Apart from their environment, they have most probably something wrong with the left hemisphere of their brains, which governs their behaviour.

          Another disadvantage of men but an advantage for women is that men are less resistant to disease than women, and therefore, as mentioned earlier, are healthier. When a woman became pregnant, she has to defend and support the fetus, not to reject or destroy it. In the meantime she has to defend herself against infection. Therefore, she must have inherited an extremely sophisticated immune system more than man. But this advantage for women could turn into disadvantage. This sophisticated immune system sometimes becomes over-efficient or over-active and attacks the body it is supposed to protect. Therefore, women suffer from certain auto immune disease more than men do.

          In conclusion, there are pluses and minuses, advantages and disadvantages making us complementary and necessary to one another.  Neither is better, neither is worse. They are equal although not the same.  Allah has no preference in matter of gender, either male or female. He says:

  مَنْ عَمِلَ صَالِحًا مِنْ ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنْثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَلَنُحْيِيَنَّهُ حَيَاةً طَيِّبَةً

وَلَنَجْزِيَنَّهُمْ أَجْرَهُمْ بِأَحْسَنِ مَا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ

 (النحل: ٩٧)

“Whoever works righteousness, man or

 woman, and has faith, verily, to him will We give

 a life that is good and pure, and We will bestow

 on such their reward according to the

 best of their actions.” [43]

In one tradition narrated by Abū Hurayrah the Prophet says:

إنَّ اللهَ لا يَنْظُرُ إلَى أَجْسَامِكُمْ وَلَا إلىَ صُوَرِكُمْ وَلكِنْ يَنْظُرُ

إلىَ قُلُوْبِكُمِ [ وَأَشَارَ بِأَصَاِبعِهِ إلىَ صَدِرْه ]

(رواه مسلم)

 “Allah does not look at your body nor your

 appearance, but He looks at your heart

 [and he pointed his fingers at his breast].”[44]

    Now let us pray for the (future) bride and groom, may Allah bless their marriage and give them happy and harmonious life.

          [Any prayer for the prosperity of both the bride and bridegroom can be cited together].

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[1] Qur’ān, Muhammad [47]:24
[2]Qur’ān,  S.ād [38]:29
[3]  Qur’ān, al-An‘ām [6]:125
[4]Qur’ān, al-Zumar [39]:21
[5] Qur’ān, al-Nūr [24]:43
[6] Qur’ān, al-Rūm [30]:48
[7] Reported by al-Bayhaqī
[8] Qur’ān, T.ā  [20]:9-14
[9] Qur’ān, al-Qas.as. [28]:29-30
[10] Qur’ān, al-Baqarah [2]:183
[11]Qur’ān, al-Baqarah [2]: 286
[12] Qur’ān,  Maryam [19]:26
[13] Qur’ān, al-Baqarah [2]: 183-4
[14] Qur’ān, al-Baqarah [2]: 187
[15] Qur’ān, al-Baqarah [2]:185
[16] Qur’ān, al-Baqarah [2]:185
[17] Reported by al-Tabrānī
[18] Qur’ān, [2]:183-184   
[19] See Ibn Kathir's Tafsir on these verses.
[20] Qur’ān, [2]:185
[21] Qur’ān, al-Baqarah [2]:286, M.M. Pickthall's translation
[22] Reported by al-Tirmidhī
[23]Reported by Ibn Mājah, A h.mad, al-Bayhaqī, and al-Tabrānī
[24] Reported by A h.mad, al-Bayhaqī, and al-Tabrānī
[25] Reported by al-Bukhārī and al-Bayhaqī
[26]Qur’ān, al-S.āffāt [37]:102-107
[27] Genesis 16:16 and 21:5
[28] Qur’ān, al-S.āffāt [37]:100-101
[29][29] Qur’ān, Ibrahim [14]:39
[30] Qur’ān, Ibrahim [14]:40
[31]Qur’ān, al-Baqarah [2]:127-129  
[32] Reported by A h.mad, al-Bayhaqī and al-Tabrānī
[33] Genesis 22:7-8 
[34]Qur’ān, Fāt.ir [35]:6  
[35] Reported by Muslim
[36] Reported by al-Tirmidhī
[37]Reported by al-Bayhaqī
[38] Reported by Muslim
[39] Reported by Abū Dā’ūd, Ibn Mājah, and al-Bayhaqī
[40] Qur’ān, Yāsīn [36]:36
[41] Dr. Joseph H. Peck, M.D., Life with Women and How to Survive It. Englewood Cliffs, N.J.: PrenticeHall, Inc., 1961, p. 82.
[42]  Qur’ān, al-Baqarah [2]:187.
[43]Qur’ān, al-Nahl [16]:97
[44]Reported by Muslim

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